*(From the team at These Hoes Ain’t Loyal)
We are referring to an April 2023 article from LoveToKnow.com titled “How Long the Average Relationship Lasts (by Age)”. The piece, written by Kate Miller-Wilson, explores how the duration of romantic relationships changes with age, maturity, and life experience.
The article explains that as people grow older, they generally develop better emotional intelligence, communication, and conflict-resolution skills, all of which contribute to longer-lasting relationships.
Here’s the age-by-age breakdown:
Ages 12–14: Relationships last about 5 months on average. Early romances are brief because of limited maturity and communication skills.
Ages 15–16: Average length ≈ 6 months. Teenagers who have learned healthy conflict-resolution skills (often from parents) tend to maintain relationships longer.
Ages 16–18: Average length ≈ 1.8 years (22 months). Greater independence and social experience allow for more stable romantic connections.
In the 20s: Average length 2–4 years. Young adults show more patience and emotional depth, but career focus and personal exploration often delay permanent commitment.
In the 30s: No fixed number, but relationships are typically longer and more stable. After one year, breakup risk drops notably — only 20% of unmarried couples split after five years, and just 10% after twenty.
In the 40s–50s and beyond: Many couples stay together for 10 years or more. Maturity, communication, and conflict-management experience play a key role in sustaining long-term love.
In essence: LoveToKnow’s 2023 article highlights that early relationships build emotional experience, while age and maturity later transform that experience into enduring partnerships.
💔 WHY PEOPLE GO FROM ONE RELATIONSHIP TO ANOTHER
*(From the team at These Hoes Ain’t Loyal)
We are not here to sugarcoat love.
We are here to tell the truth — the kind most people avoid because it exposes their patterns and threatens their comfort.
People leave one relationship and move into another for reasons that range from completely justified to emotionally reckless.
Here is the breakdown for men and women and whether it is something you should fix or flee from.
👨🦱 WHY MEN MOVE ON QUICKLY
1. Ego Repair
When a man feels rejected or unappreciated, he often replaces rather than heals.
He does not want to sit in the pain. He wants proof that he is still desirable.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. Healing your ego is an inside job, not your next partner’s responsibility.
And if you are the problem, how can changing your partner change anything or improve anything? Surely your behaviour patterns and habits will get you the same outcomes. Tony Robbins says the definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting different outcomes.
2. Emotional Avoidance
Many men were never taught how to process emotions. They can handle loss in business but not in love, so they distract themselves with new attention.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. Sit with your feelings. Avoiding pain guarantees repeating it.
3. Sexual Novelty
Some chase newness to validate masculinity. They confuse novelty with connection.
Fix or Flee → Fix it, unless it comes with deception or addiction. Then it needs therapy, not another partner.
And again, if you are the problem, a new face will not heal the old pattern. The environment changes, but the behaviour repeats.
4. Lack of Depth
When a man does not know himself, he cannot connect deeply. He mistakes chemistry for compatibility.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. Self-awareness fixes more love stories than new partners ever could.
5. True Incompatibility or Abuse
If there is manipulation, violence, or constant disrespect, leaving is not weakness — it is survival.
Fix or Flee → Flee. Never stay where your spirit is shrinking.
👩🦰 WHY WOMEN MOVE ON QUICKLY
1. Emotional Starvation
She has begged to be seen, heard, and valued but received silence in return. When someone new gives her what her partner withheld, she feels alive again.
Fix or Flee → It depends. If your partner is capable of growth, communicate before you cut ties. If you have been invisible for years, flee.
Still, remember this — if you are the problem, how can changing your partner change anything or improve anything? Your patterns travel with you.
2. Validation Addiction
Attention can become a drug. Some women chase relationships the way they chase likes online because they want to feel enough.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. True validation comes from self-worth, not applause.
Tony Robbins says the definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting different outcomes. If every new relationship looks like the old one, that is not bad luck — that is a pattern screaming for change.
3. Fantasy Projection
She builds a story around someone new before knowing who they really are. It feels like love, but it is escape.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. Stop confusing potential with proof.
4. Revenge or Comparison
Sometimes she does not want a new man. She just wants her ex to see her with one. That is not healing — that is theatre.
Fix or Flee → Fix it. If you are performing your healing, you are still hooked.
5. Real Danger
When there is abuse, control, manipulation, or infidelity, leaving is not betrayal — it is survival with dignity.
Fix or Flee → Flee. You cannot heal in the same house that hurt you.
💭 FINAL TRUTH
Most people do not leave because they found someone better.
They leave because they could not find themselves in the relationship anymore.
And if you are the problem, how can changing your partner change anything or improve anything? Surely your behaviour patterns and habits will get you the same outcomes.
A new partner will not erase your patterns — they will only expose them faster.
If you keep choosing escape over reflection, love becomes a revolving door.
Before you walk away, ask yourself:
Am I leaving to grow, or am I leaving to avoid the lesson this love was trying to teach me?
Be the first to leave a comment